Ladder Theory

I'm reading an article named "Ladder Theory" and found below statement very interesting. Ladder theory says man has one ladder and for sex while woman has two, one for sex one for friendship. Men put woman on the ladder the higher the more her want to have sex with. On woman ladder, men who try to jump from friend ladder to reality ladder have find himself kicked in the head and bang to abyss. Author is pointing out that man only think about sex. I would like to deny. But unfortunately it's true for almost everyone. Especially when asked with below question;



IF A MAN FINDS YOU ATTRACTIVE YOU CANNOT BE FRIENDS

Many women want to argue this point and say things like "I have lots of guy friends." Maybe. There are exactly 3 cases Intellectual Whores has identified whereby a guy and a girl can be friends:

1. The guy is gay
2. The guy does not find you attractive
3. The guy already has a woman much higher than you on the ladder

Even Nietzsche knew this. Most guys know this intuitively. Most girls doubt. I have a challenge for all of you girls who still doubt. Pick a guy who does not meet any of the criterion on the above list that you think is your friend. Then ask yourself this question: If you were both alone at his place one night, and you excused yourself to the bathroom and came out naked and asked him to have sex with you would he:

1. Tell you he doesn't want to risk the beautiful friendship you have created with messy physical entanglements.

2. Comply.

Remember
...this only works if you are honest with yourself. Number one is of course something that guys hear all the time. Intellectual Whores refers to it as the Kiss of Death. It is more likely that he will jump you eagerly.

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from The Zimmers' news on bbc



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What You Won't Do for Love

Song: What You Won't Do for Love
Artist: Bobby Caldwell

I guess you wonder where I've been
I searched to find a love within
I came back to let you know
Got a thing for you and I can't let go

My friends wonder what is wrong with me
Well I'm in a daze from your love, you see
I came back to let you know
Got a thing for you and I can't let go

Some people go around the world for love
But they may never find what they dream of
What you won't do, do for love
You've tried everything but you don't give up
In my world only you
Makes me do for love what I would not do

But then I only want the best it's true
They can't believe the things I do for you
What you won't do, do for love
You've tried everything but you don't give up
In my world, only you
Makes me do for love what I would not do
Makes me do for love what I would not do

Statements

John Paul II states that:

Christ is absolutely original and absolutely unique. If He were a "prophet" like
Mohammed, if He were "enlightened" like Buddha, without any doubt He would not
be what He is. He is the one mediator between God and humanity.

Quoting this passage. Thich Nhat Hanh comments:

The statement does not seem to reflect the deep mystery of the oneness of the
Trinity. It also does not reflect the fact that Christ is also the Son of Man.
All Christians, while praying to God, address His as Father. Of course Christ is
unique. But who is not unique? Socrates, Mohammed, the Buddha, you, and I are
all unique. The idea behind the statement, however, is the notion that
Christianity provides the only way of salvation and all other religious
traditions are of no use. This attitude excludes dialogue and fosters religious
intolerance and discrimination. It does not help.

// from Living Buddha, Living Christ by Thich Nhat Hanh

Golden Principles to Preserve One's Love

Golden Principles 1 We will not simultaneously get angry. Be cool as water whenever another one being fire.

Golden Principles 2 We will not shout into each others faces beside our house is accidentally on fire.

Golden Principles 3 Nobody loves to be criticized. When talking of what you dislike or need his/ her improvement, use soft & sweet words.

Golden Principles 4 We will not revive any bad old practices, but only our romaces.

Golden Principles 5 Make him/ her know how much s/he means to you.

Golden Principles 6 Promise me that we will not peevish over-night. Talk face to face not back-chat.

Golden Principles 7 Tell him or her more about anything in your life to tie you up together.

Golden Principles 8 Don't be shy to show him/her your apology. When you have something mistaken

Golden Principles 9 Don't misunderstand that being together always is to show your heedfulness.

Golden Principles 10 Lastly, realize him/ her that your love still exists and will be eternally last.